I had a flash of brilliance the other day. That’s what I call them, though they may be more correctly called flashes of insight or understanding. You know what I’m talking about. When all of a sudden you see something so clearly, something that’s vexed you, maybe for years. (Yes, I said “vexed.” I’ve been reading Jane Austen. Let it go.)
Usually my flashes of brilliance come during that amorphous time between sleep and awakening when I am partly conscious. During that brief time of semi-consciousness we are extremely open to insight. Not only do we have an open pathway to our soul, but our soul knows the answers our brains lack. And it delivers, if we are open to listening to it.
I have come to understand more problems and issues during this miniscule time of day than any other. They generally involve relationship issues I didn’t understand that occurred within the last few years. The insight I gained during these brief times helped me understand why things happened the way they did and helped me resolve them in my mind. It helped me to let things go that still bothered me.
But the flash of brilliance I had the other day involved something that occurred over a decade ago, something that happened that I didn’t entirely understand. And what I realized was that I screwed up a relationship way back then. Not only for myself, but for him as well. It had been meant to be, I’m sure of it. And it never was.
There is no pain associated with this anymore, as it was so long ago and we are no longer in touch. In fact, I have no idea what happened to him. He is like a vague memory.
Interestingly, I don’t feel regret, either. Yeah, I screwed up. And normally that would fill me with painful regret and self-loathing. But I am so far removed from the emotional ties of that time and to that person that there is no room for regret in the remembering. It just doesn’t matter at this point. But I did learn why I screwed up, and it’s a pattern I need to change. I think that’s why I received that flash of brilliance now; to learn what not to do in the future, to recall that I have a pattern that needs breaking where it comes to certain men. The good men. The ones with potential.
For some reason I feel I don’t deserve them. And that’s what it was at that time. I felt he must be for someone else; not for me. What I just realized was that he WAS meant for me, and I was meant for him. It was supposed to be. And it didn’t happen, because I screwed up.
Oh well. I will take the understanding and the lesson and learn from it and apply it in my future. I am glad to have the realization, but even more glad that it is from so long ago that it doesn’t pain me. Because it certainly would have very much, had I realized this a few years ago.
Flashes of brilliance are unpredictable. I don’t know if they happen when they are meant to or if they occur when we need them. They are one of life’s mysteries to me. But I, for one, am glad to experience them. They have brought me comfort over the years.
Have you had any “flashes of brilliance?”
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